Thank you so much ;u; I know I don’t have a whole lot of time to spare to answer questions, but it means a lot to know I’m still helping somehow when I do.
Easy, clean up your pottymouth in school! You can swear all you like in front of your friends when school’s out or at home. A little class in front of your teachers never hurt anyone (or their grades…)
You gotta approach stuff like this carefully, since it IS a long-term friendship and you don’t want to lose that.
I think you should let her know how you feel, but don’t make her feel cornered. Be sure to let her know that if she is not interested, you are totally cool with going back to how things normally are and acting like your talk never happened (she won’t like the idea of hurting your feelings if she turns you down, so be extra reassuring that you are OK with any answer). But definitely let her know you are curious of what she thinks!
Just be casual about it, be chill, try and treat it like a normal conversation, as hard as it sounds. Just kind of bring it up like “hey, so I was thinking… I think we go really well together, and we get along great. I can’t help wondering what it’d be like if we dated, maybe we’d hit it off?”
It makes it much easier for both parties to recover if the outcome isn’t necessarily favorable when you don’t make a big deal out of it, and give her an out if she needs one so she doesn’t stress.
I wish you good luck! I’m rooting for ya :)
I’m so glad you worked up the courage! You should be very proud of yourself for being brave and seeking help. Things will start getting better from now on.
It’s ok. This can be a big deal to some people, and it’s okay to be nervous. Sometimes people get more mature about the subject of sexuality as they grow older, some don’t… I know I did.
You might choose to wait until your friends have grown up a bit, but if not, well, your REAL friends won’t give you crap for it. If they show signs of being mean to you, let them know you’re completely serious and that they should respect you, or you’ll need to cut them off. That should get he message across. And if they continue to be rude, then they’re not the kind of pals you probably want to keep.
My advice on this would be to reflect on it a bit more before saying anything.
Some people go through long stages like this where they’re not QUITE sure where their orientation lies. Until then, you don’t have to share this with anybody. Sexual preference can be as private as you prefer it to be. And I definitely recommend keeping it private at LEAST until you feel more certain—you don’t need to stress about letting your friends know while you’re still confused.
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Some facts about suicide and depression.
- As of 2011, around one million people per year die by suicide. That’s about a death every 40 seconds or about 3,000 every day.
- And for every successful suicide, there is twenty who failed. So there is an attempt of suicide every three seconds.
- Suicide is the third leading cause of death for people aged 15 – 24.
- It is the 13th leading cause of death worldwide and accounts for nearly half of all violent deaths in the world.
- 121 million people worldwide suffer from depression, with 2/3 never seeking out treatment.
- The number of people who die by suicide is expected to reach 1.5 million per year by 2020, one every 20 seconds.
September 9th is when National Suicide Prevention Week starts. Depression screenings are given by health organizations, including self-administered and online tests. September 10th is known as World Suicide Prevention Day.
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“The vast majority of people don’t commit suicide because they want to kill themselves, but as a way to end the torment of not being able to cope with their problem,” says Major David Reynolds. If we could give them a better way to cope and heal, we could help save so many people.
I honestly don’t think there is any avoiding it. All there is are ways to cope with it. Fortunately, you can always find support in friends, family, teachers and therapists/doctors. It DOES get better.
In my personal opinion, it’s not that you’re trying to make yourself feel worse so much as you’re just trying to vent those emotions. It’s perfectly okay to do gravitate toward sad, grim things when you feel depressed, and it’s cathartic for many people.
It shouldn’t matter if she despises her parents or not, this is a matter of safety and you NEED to inform them. If you’re scared or confused about how to handle it, ask your parents or go to the school counselor yourself to get their advice on how to proceed. You might make your friend angry, but her safety comes first, and later on she might thank you for it.